I really wanted to promote my Mindful Social Business Coaching program during the holidays. But I was overwhelmed by the hype being delivered by the email lists to which I myself am subscribed. I really am committed to creating a hype-free zone here for us. So as each day went by, I went inside and listened for a compelling “message to market.” None arrived.
Oddly enough (or perfectly so) the January 5 session started and we had acquired two new members. They joined without me doing anything extra. My commitment to myself is to walk my talk more often, to step away from the effortful approach to work and relax into the mindful approach. The key essence of mindfulness at the moment is that each of us has the full backing of something much more vast and powerful than a single mind-body. So we don’t have to follow endless formulas or ever feel frantic; there is enough, including time.
It is an inner-directed approach not a follow-someone-else’s approach. It’s why I am calling 2015 the year to stop learning and start doing. The abundant supply of “listicles” (10 Things to … and 5 Essential yadas) are out there – as we want them. But what I find is that our brains have become so hooked on them, that it is easy to experience paralysis. You start to work on your blog, and you think: I’ve saved some lists somewhere to tell me how and what to do. The trouble is, many of those lists create false simplicity. One of the “Five Essential Steps” could actually take weeks to accomplish. I find this so energy-draining, distracting, and non-productive.
Instead, trust that you can just Start Now. When you run into a question, you can search for that answer and then get back to your doing. So find time, maybe in a beautiful or favorite place, and sit quietly with a notebook. Let your mind wander and ask yourself, what would make you happy? How might you accomplish that? And when you have a few answers, start to arrange them in a SMART Goal format.
R: Reasonable and Relevant
I want to blog a lot more and use social media to grow my business.
(Admirable but large and diffuse. How and where do you start? How will you know if you are succeeding?)
I commit to blogging at least once a month and to using social media for my business at least 3 days a week for 30 minutes per session.
Mindful SMART Goal
I commit to blogging at least once a month and to using social media for my business at least 3 days a week for 30 minutes per session. I will track my efforts and evaluate my progress every two weeks, so I can adjust as desired.
Mindful UN Goal
This is the really out there option, that actually involves no goals. You can still go through the above process – it can help you organize things and orient yourself. Then, be willing to show up in the here and now and trust that each day, as you listen to your truly focused inner Adult voice, you will know what to do. And at the end of each week, then each month, etc. you will be able to delight at where you have arrived. Sometimes the universe has way MORE in store for us than we can imagine. I always like to make room for that!
It would be the knowledge that you’re good enough, you’re smart enough, and doggone it, people like you! (Thank you Stuart Smalley) You can start using social tools today, without reading another article or taking another webinar. Yes, you can start anywhere — there is no perfect place or time to start. You will learn so much more by doing, than by studying. And by doing, you will start getting results.
If you would like to be part of a brilliant group of other solopreneurs, artists, nonprofit leaders, and business owners who are using coaching tools to start doing, please join us in the Mindful Social Business Coaching program. Because even the most brilliant can benefit from the wisdom and support of others in the privacy of your own computer.
P.S. A version of this was originally published to our email list. Please click here if you want to be on it. I really liked it, and it is still January – time to think about or re-think about what you want to do in 2015 and what you want to do, today.